Imagine you were handed a small fragile. . . newborn. Imagine this newborn was loud all day and all night. And, every time it was loud, you were required to do one of two things.
- Give the newborn sustenance from your very own body. Sure, it may get easy soon, but for awhile it’s probably going to hurt.
- Mix the newborn’s sustenance with water, bring it to a perfect temperature and give this person it’s sustenance via a previously sanitized contraption (which you now must wash, again). Less physically painful, more financially painful.
Now, imagine all day and all night, after each feeding, you must bounce it around until it expels air from one end or excrement from the other. Be sure to count the excrements. Then, you must clean the child.
All day and all night.
To complicate matters, this newborn sometimes becomes loud for no reason. During this time of needless noise, you must either set it down OR hold it. How do you know? Guess. Best of luck.
I know what you’re thinking, you have things to do all day and all night: a career, other children, housekeeping, eating, and showering. This is irrelevant to child.
Prior to being handed the child, you have likely undergone a lengthy and exhausting adoption process or growing an entire human inside of you and expelling the human. Additional possible complications include invasive surgery, fertility treatments, and a slew of medical problems.
Now, with this newborn, this newborn which is loud all day and and all night, they say to enjoy this season. This baby will only be small and fragile once, they say. This thing gives precious smiles eventually, they say. It only gets harder, they say.
These people all around you, people who sleep, eat, clean, make dinner, and EAT DINNER tell you how happy you should be.
I call nonsense.
Newborns are a gift. They do smile. They are only babies once. They are worth it all.
Still, I call nonsense.
Moms of newborns, be sad, happy, tired, and joyful. Love your child and hate being awake all night. Cherish tender moments and forget the rest. Constant self sacrifice is part of the newborn package, but it’s not always delightful.
You’ll get through this. You’ll settle into a beautiful new normal. You’ll sleep again.
You don’t have to love every second of parenting and constantly delight in your family. Give yourself permission to be at the end of you. Reach your limit and ask for help. Alternatively, ask or help before you reach the end of you.
After all, they are only newborns once.
PS. In merely one year, newborns become one-year olds.
And, I adore photographing them at each stage. Can you believe the change between fresh a fresh newborn and a one-year old toddler? I cannot believe this happens in twelve months. Additionally, I cannot believe how often I get to photograph both stages. Family Photographers are the luckiest.
Danielle Geri Long
Selected top Minneapolis newborn photographers, Danielle provides award-winning lifestyle photography, photographing stories throughout Minnesota. Danielle often longs for the loveliness of the Twin Cities, while savoring country life just outside Buffalo, MN. Specializing in newborn and family photography, she adores watching families grow. Danielle and her husband are raising two delightful kids and attempting to reign in frequent over-committing, so they can do important things (like see each other and watch Netflix). Danielle travels to Annandale, Minneapolis, St. Cloud, Plymouth, Maple Grove, Andover, Buffalo, Monticello, and more. Contact her today at 763-670-7657.